Your Dreams Will Find a Way

Are you making space for your dreams? Or are you pushing them aside as impractical or impossible? Do you even have dreams? I’ve asked many people how they envision their ideal lives, and they can’t answer that question without saying something like, “I don’t know, but not this.” They know what they don’t want, but they don’t know what they DO want.

I believe everyone is put here for a reason. That reason varies from person to person. Yet, there are some universal truths. I believe ideally you and I were put here to:

• Fulfill the full measure of our creation
• Learn to trust the Divine – explicitly

Nobody was sent here to fail or to be a tragedy. Yet, we do have our freedom to choose. Sadly, some people choose tragedy.

What Is a Dream?

When I talk about dreams, I’m not necessarily talking about all your childhood dreams. Although, childhood dreams can leave clues. As a youngster, I wanted to be a chemist, a geologist, a jewelry maker, an archaeologist, a banjo picker, a saxophonist, etc. Those were passing dreams. Most of these didn’t keep resurfacing over the years. Although, I still love to explore a good historical location, collect gemstones, and create music.

Obviously, there were some aspects of these dreams that held clues as to why I’m here. I may not be an archaeologist, but historical locations help me write historical fiction. I’m not a geologist, but I’m now fascinated with how gemstones move and clear energy. As I help people discover, create and deliver their God-ordained messages, I often call these people “my stones.”  They’re like rare gems I collect and display for all to be blessed.

What Were Your Childhood Dreams?

Think back on your childhood desires and dreams. They can be clues to your big dream. You may not be destined to be an astronaut, but maybe there’s some aspect of that childhood astronaut dream that still has gravity. It’s still a deep desire. It’s still pulling you forward.

You may feel you don’t have a purpose or a divine dream. But, I’d be willing to bet that if you were attracted to reading this article, you do. You’ve just ignored it for so long, it’s hidden below the rubble and skyscrapers of life.

The Chaos Dreams Create

I believe it’s important to discover and make space for your dreams. If you don’t, they tend to eat at you from the inside. A dream you stuff down and bury will do one of two things:

1. make you sick, depressed, miserable and/or
2. find a way to bubble to the surface.

Beware: When some dreams work their way to the surface, they don’t care who or what they disturb on their way up.

What do I mean by that? Some dreams aren’t simply dreams. They’re destinies. They are divine purposes: the reason you were put here on this earth. Those kinds of dreams fight to find a way to the surface. They’ll rattle your cage until you pay attention to them. They are willing to turn your world upside down. They may even take you to rock bottom to get you to realize what’s important.

Unfortunately, some people ignore their dreams to the grave. Their lives look more like tragedies than divine destinies.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be someone’s cautionary tale. I want my happy ending!

I’ll give you a personal example of a suppressed dream that caused chaos in my world.

My dream was to have a fantastic marital relationship with someone I connected with mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. The challenge was I didn’t have enough experience at 19-years-old to know what that looked like or what it entailed. I’d never seen a really healthy, functional, collaborative marriage up close. I wasn’t even sure my dream was possible.

Marrying at 19, I didn’t realize how little I knew. Eventually, chemistry fades and when you’re in a relationship with someone who isn’t marching toward the same goals and dreams, you start to live separate lives.

I pushed my dream down for many years, trying to make that relationship be enough. Yet, my dream wouldn’t leave me alone. It started speaking to me in visions and dreams. Eventually, it became very clear that my dream was my destiny. I began entertaining it, getting clear on what that relationship looked like and felt like. I thought if I got really clear, perhaps my husband would somehow morph into the person I envisioned being with – someone with whom I could connect with on all levels.

That didn’t happen. The clearer I became, the more I knew that what I wanted was what God wanted for me. Eventually, I could no longer stay in that relationship. It wasn’t good for either of us or our children.

After some time in the dating world, I began to think my dream was impractical and impossible. I figured I needed to be realistic. I took the “safe” route. I married a second husband because I thought we had the potential to be what I envisioned. I would have stayed in that second marriage, trying to make it work, hoping it would become what I had seen in my dreams and visions. But, that husband was smart enough to see that we were going in different directions. He abruptly ended the marriage.

I don’t regret those marriages. They taught me important things I needed to know for my own growth and development. Those lessons helped me have the great relationship I enjoy today. I firmly believe that no experience is ever wasted if we learn from it. It serves us, educates us, and becomes something that can take us toward our divine destiny – if we let it.

My relationship dream caused a lot of chaos in people’s lives on the way to the surface. It shook up my world and that of my family. It found a way  – primarily because having the type of relationship I envisioned is critical to my life purpose and mission. It’s a major piece to the puzzle of why God put me on this planet.

Do You Even Know What Your Dream Is?

There was another dream that was more subtle. I didn’t even realize it was a dream, yet it managed to find its way into reality.

Anytime I’d hear certain people play the piano I’d think, “I wish I could play like that!” For example, when I heard my Granny White play ragtime or my friend Sheldon Pickering play, something deep inside me longed to have the special something they had.

I took piano lessons from the time I was 5 until I was 17. I could play just about any piece of sheet music. I could not play by ear. I thought my desire was to be able to improvise and play by ear. I figured that was impossible because I really don’t have a natural ear for music. And I honestly didn’t think I was that creative.

This desire was never something I gave much credence to. In time, I learned that what I longed for was not mechanics or an ear. It was making music an outward expression of my feelings. I wanted the music to come through me, not from the page. I wanted to move people with the music I played. THAT was the real dream.

For decades I only dared to play what was written on the page. I didn’t even start learning a few chords to embellish hymns until I was in my late 40’s.

Then, when I went through my second divorce and my mother passed, music became my lifeline. Music helped me process the onslaught of emotions. It healed my brokenness. 

A dream that was so subtle it never got written down or placed on a vision board found a way. 

I’m still no virtuoso like Sheldon. I haven’t mastered ragtime like Granny. I do create my own music that conveys feelings, emotions and moves energy for myself and others.

Throughout all the chaos, perhaps it was the music that was finding a way. As long as I stayed in stifled relationships where I couldn’t be my true self (where I didn’t feel safe expressing myself and wasn’t listening to my heart or honoring my dreams) the music couldn’t emerge.

Creating songs from my soul required freedom of expression that wouldn’t fully come until my heart felt completely safe.

Ironically, that safety emerged because of the chaos. When you hit rock bottom, you have nothing left to lose. What’s left to fear? At that point, I realized I had everything I needed – which looked like very little to everyone else – but I finally understood I had everything. I had God, and I had my angel mother on my side in heavenly realms.

Once I reached this place of being 100% okay with me and my life as it was on my own, God brought me the man who completely accepts and adores me for who I am. He not only cheers me on in my creativity, but he also provides the safety and space for me to express my creativity and emotions.

So, I ask you, are you dreaming? Are you following your dreams? Do you know what they are? Do you need someone to help you discover your dream? Do you need someone to believe in, encourage and assist you with your dreams? If so, let’s talk. Hop on my calendar for a free 20-minute strategy session.

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