{"id":4863,"date":"2016-12-31T22:29:41","date_gmt":"2016-12-31T22:29:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/marniemarcus.com\/unplugged\/?p=4863"},"modified":"2016-12-31T22:36:30","modified_gmt":"2016-12-31T22:36:30","slug":"validate-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/marniekuhns.com\/unplugged\/2016\/12\/31\/validate-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"Validate Yourself: Stop Waiting for Someone Else to Do It"},"content":{"rendered":"

I think many of us are waiting for someone else to validate us, to make us feel like we hold value. I’ve spent most of my life waiting for someone else to see all the aspects of me and appreciate me for everything I am.<\/p>\n

Probably only a handful of people (including my parents) have come close to seeing all of me and valuing and loving me unconditionally. I am immensely grateful for them.<\/p>\n

Throughout my life I’ve gotten aggravated that significant others weren’t seeing the full real me. But the truth is, I wasn’t fully honoring, acknowledging, valuing or respecting myself. It finally dawned on me that I needed to stop waiting for someone else to validate me.<\/p>\n

I was the one discounting my gifts. I was the one assuming that things that come easily to me come easily for everyone. They don’t. I wasn’t seeing, acknowledging or honoring my giving, loving heart or my kindness. I wasn’t honoring my compassion, resiliency or wisdom.<\/p>\n

I assumed everyone is wired like me. And they aren’t. I have gifts, qualities, and inner strengths that are unique to me. They are important. They contribute to the world and enrich the lives of the people around me.<\/p>\n

The shift came when I stopped blaming men, clients or the world for not taking the time to really know or value me. I had to stop playing the victim and own my role. There was only one person to blame and that was me. I was the one who didn’t step up for me. I was the one who hadn’t given me the validation I deserved. I’ve always been able to see the greatness in others, why wouldn’t I see it in myself?<\/p>\n

It’s extremely liberating to realize you don’t need someone else to come along and validate you. How could anyone else truly value me and my qualities if I don’t value myself?<\/p>\n

What about you? Have you ever taken the time to stop and celebrate your accomplishments, acknowledge the hard things you’ve been through and risen above? Have you itemized your good qualities? Have you witnessed and documented your own character growth?<\/p>\n

A little bit of journaling on this could shift everything for you. I highly recommend it. Within your story, within your greatness you may also find that you have something priceless to share.<\/p>\n

Affirmations: Validate Yourself<\/h2>\n