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I love this quote from Julie Ann Turner’s book, “Genesis of Genius<\/a>:”<\/p>\n

I believe each of us reaches a turning point in life — a crossroad of choice when the day comes, as the writer Anais Nin so beautifully describes it, ‘when the risk to remain tight in the bud is more painful than the risk it takes to blossom.’<\/p>\n

That moment we realize that what has come before, no matter how comfortable it may be, can no longer serve our highest self, and that, in order to expand into our highest potential we must consciously choose the path of What Can Be … The quest of discovery begins.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

And as my friend Dr. Roger Moczygemba of myQuickdoc.com<\/a>\u00a0noted,<\/p>\n

The discomfort we feel before we feel the need to break out of the bud will never happen if we are not continuously striving to improve.”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

If we’re on a path of self-improvement, which most entrepreneurs are, we will eventually come to that point when we realize we’ve stayed inside the bud for too long. And that shift from “What Is” to “What Can Be” is the key, as Julie Ann Turner talks about in her book.<\/p>\n

\"BeforeFor me, that shift from feeling like I was stuck with “What Is” to focusing on “What Can Be” happened on a ride home from a family vacation to the beach two years ago. For nearly a decade I was unhappy in my marriage, but I thought I had to settle for what was. Not until I finally realized and owned the fact that I was the creator of my own life and could choose a different relationship dynamic, did I finally get a clear picture of what I DID want. You see, it’s easy to moan and groan about what’s not working, it’s an entirely different thing to get clear on what you want INSTEAD!<\/p>\n

And that’s what I did — I got incredibly clear on the relationship I DID want. I was fully open to my existing marriage being this. I thought perhaps that if I traveled the path of self-improvement, became the person I envisioned, that my marriage would shift along with it. But that was not to be. Instead, there came a time when it was clearly evident that for the good of everyone I had to let it go.<\/p>\n

During that pivotal drive back from the beach, I shifted my mental gaze from “What Is” to “What Can Be.” As a result, I began creating the life of my dreams. I’m happier, healthier, 40 pounds lighter, and loving the relationships I’m creating. To hear more of my transformational story (which I documented thoroughly as I went) and to find out how you can create your own ideal life too, please join me for my “How to Create Your Own Amazing Life Workshop<\/a>” Details here<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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