Living in the past is quicksand. Whether you view the past as beautiful and better than the present or horrible and laced with pain, you’re caught in quicksand. The past is an especially dangerous quicksand that no one else can help you escape. The more you idealize or demonize the people and events of the past, the deeper you’ll sink and the more miserable you’ll become.
Anyone who comes along to ask forgiveness for their role in your past is extending a hand to help you from your quagmire. You may think they’re disingenuous or that you can’t trust them. Maybe you think they don’t deserve forgiveness. Even if they are faking it, even if they don’t “deserve it,” if you refuse to release your ill will toward them, you do so at your own peril.
Simply reaching toward their reaching starts transforming the quicksand to solid ground. Forgiving them isn’t about saving them. It’s about saving you! And that’s true whether they ever ask for your forgiveness or not. Their mere presence in your memory is an invitation to release what is holding you hostage.
It’s your choice to stay where you are or leave. It always comes down to your choice.
No moment is all bad or all good. Each moment is like a coin with two sides. See only one side and you’re trapped in quicksand. See it realistically…. With both the challenge and the support, and you are free.
We can never build happy futures until we see reality for what it is… a moment in time with both challenge and support. See both and understand that every moment serves us and the progressive realization of our highest and best selves.
As Jesus said “Sufficient is the day to the evil thereof” (Matthew 6:34). Every difficult moment contains its own way of escape. Look for the good and latch onto it. See the challenge as the price tag… the counterweight to all your blessings. Your challenges make it possible for you to have an amazing life.
If you’d like to release the hold the past has on you and open yourself up to the freedom of forgiveness, please consider booking a SimplyAlign session with me. The choice is always yours to forgive, but if you can get some of the blocks out of the way in your path to forgiveness, it really helps. In fact, the reason I took the initial training in SimplyAlign was to be able to forgive someone. Opening myself to the possibility of forgiving was the first step! And it worked!
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About Marnie Pehrson Kuhns
Marnie Pehrson Kuhns is a Certified SimplyAlign Practitioner™ who uses music and creativity to mentor you past barriers, fears and doubts to discover, create, align with, and deliver your soul’s song (the mission, message or purpose you are on this earth to live). Marnie is a best-selling author with 31 fiction and nonfiction titles. If you'd like Marnie and her husband Dave to work with you personally on Your Great Reinvention, get a FREE 20-minute strategy session with Marnie here.
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